Having sex just to feel "normal"

Peer pressure is everywhere. How to dress, how to act, who to hang out with, who NOT to hang out with(because they aren't cool enough), what to eat, what to drink, how to talk...and when and who to have sex with.

These days sex is part of a teenagers life. It's just something that they do. No connections. No relationship. No strings attached. I mean listen to the the name of the hit movie"Friends with Benefits" it's all about this topic & it's glamorized!

Now I"m not saying ALL teenagers are doing this. There are a few selected few who are not having sex. But a huge number are. I know I was in high school. The only difference was back then you were a slut for "doing it". Back then you didn't go around telling people that you were having sex...Now it's part of growing up. It's expected now. But why?

Apparently, you aren't NORMAL if your NOT having sex at a young age.
Even though statistics warn teens of STD's & pregnancy they are still making these choices.
What they aren't warning them about is one of the biggest concerns...the emotional loss. They don't teach this in SEX ED class. Instead they just demonstrate how to put on a condom.

What they are not telling you is that DEPRESSION IS AN STD.

In her book "Strong Fathers Strong Daughters" Meg Meeker writes, " Researchers have known for a long time that teenage sexual activity and depression are linked, but the question was which came first-the sex or the depression. Depressed kids are more likely to engage in high-risk behaviors, and sex is a high-risk behavior....when a girl has sex, she loses her virginity, and very often loses her self-respect with it. Her boyfriend might tell the whole school, or make her do something she doesn't want to do or that leaves her feeling traumatized, or he might reject her in favor of another girl, or belittle her as no good at sex....they think something is wrong with them. So they try sex with different partners again and again. But the intimacy and romance they naturally expect with sex is never there. And all they do is become jaded and depressed. They lose self-confidence and self-esteem. And many feel they have lost a part of themselves that can never be retrieved."

Are you in this type of relationship right now?
Have you lost self-confidence and feel alone and un-loved?

I have been there. I sought out this kind of love with all the wrong boys. I thought that by doing those things I would feel loved and appreciated forever.
Just the opposite happened....I lost respect from my boyfriend. He no longer appreciated me.

Maybe for a moment consider being the ABnormal one. Go against the crowd. Dare to be different. Don't do what everyone else is doing. Respect yourSELF.
Trust me yourSELF will be much happier.

Seven year old's plastic surgery?

Here's an article on the story of a seven year old that recently had plastic surgery to fix her ears that stuck out. Her mom decided to get her daughters ears done to eliminate bullying. Strange thing is the daughter was quoted saying that she never really was bullied. Hmmmm....the mom DID say that she heard adults make comments in front of the girl but that was really it. She was just preventing it from happening in the future.

Sounds like this procedure really just made MOM feel better. Read the article below...

"Good Morning America" continued its exploration of all-things-plastic-surgery on Thursday, interviewing seven-year-old Samantha Shaw, a first grader from South Dakota who recently went under the knife to pin back her cup ears and fix a fold on her right ear.

Apparently, the number of teens and children getting plastic surgery has gone up 30 percent over the last decade, with more and more young people resorting to operations in order to avoid bullying. However, Samantha told Juju Chang that she hasn't been bullied, per se. Her mom said that others have made comments in front of Samantha -- with adults being worse than other kids -- but confirmed that the surgery was more preventative, so that her daughter wouldn't get bullied in the future.

New York Dr. Steven Pearlman, who performed the surgery free of charge thanks to the Little Baby Face Foundation, strongly believes that any abnormality can result in torture on the playground. But when asked whether he actually suggests that children get plastic surgery to avoid bullying, Pearlman responded, "Well, it depends where you draw the line. If it's minor, if it's cosmetic, absolutely not. But in my book and [that of] most of the medical community, the plastic surgery community, ears that stick out is not a cosmetic issue."

Tell me something...where does it end?
What if she had other slight cosmetic issues? Like, let's say, a big nose? Would you get her plastic surgery?
What if she had a space in between her two front teeth? Or what if her teeth weren't white enough? Would you get her a whitening kit to make them pearly white? Or what if her smile was a little crooked? What else would you change if this was your 7 year old?

You tell me.
I mean this wasn't an issue of physical health. Some may say "well, what about emotional health it will be better for her so she doesn't get teased"

Really?
Well, what do you think having plastic surgery did to her little heart?
I'm thinking it may have made her wonder "hmmmm mom's worried about the way that I look & thinks kids will make fun of me because my ears are too big. I'm not good enough the way God made me"

This is what I would think if someone told me to get my ears pinned back. I would look in the mirror from that point on and wonder what else needed to be changed.
Just my thoughts...
now what do you think?

you are noticed

Have you ever felt UN-noticed?
All of us have at some point in our lives.
It's very lonely isn't it? No one talks to you. Not even "hi".
You sit alone at the lunch/break table.
You walk alone in the hallways.
You just feel alone and unnoticed.
Let me tell you something...you ARE noticed.
You ARE loved.
You don't have to walk alone.
Listen to these words that are a constant reminder to me when I am feeling alone & unnoticed.

"You created my inmost being, you knit me together in my mother's womb. I praise you for I am fearfully and wonderfully made. your works are wonderful, I know that full well. My frame was not hidden from you when I was made in the secret place. When I was woven together in the depths of the earth, your eyes saw my unformed body. All the days ordained for me were written in your book before one of them came to be." Psalm 139:13-16

What? God knew me before I was even born? How amazing is that? So, does He notice you? Yes!!!!!!
He loves you so much that He thought of you even before you came to be!
Amazing!
He loves you...
He notices you...imperfectly perfect! He loves you.
You don't have to feel alone.