"Test drive the car before you buy it..."

I hate car shopping! I really do. Just the thought of the stress of the long day makes me feel sick. I hate walking into the dealership with the salesmen hunting you like their next meal. They walk up with their fake smiles trying so desperately to make a good first impression so you'll buy a car from them so that they can have a paycheck. Okay, okay, maybe I"m being a little harsh...I have run into some really nice car salesmen but admit it this is the typical scenario you run into right?

But I"m not writing today to chat about the salesmen...I'm here to chat about the car.

Aww the new smell, the feel of the shiney wheel beneath your fingertips, the gadgets that are WAY better then your last car so you just HAVe to touch each button on the dash. A new car. There's nothing quite like that feeling.

So, here's a question for you...would you ever just buy a car before taking it for a spin? Would you write out that first car payment check before you felt the way it drove? Would you brag about it to your friends before you even saw it and felt it? What if it smelled? What if it was all beat up? What if it just didn't ride like you had hoped. What if you hated everything about it?

You probably wouldn't buy it right?

This is how many describe relationships to me. "You gotta test drive the car before you buy it" they say...

or If it's not about cars it's about trying on a new pair of shoes..."you gotta make sure the shoe fits" they say...

Interesting.

It makes perfect sense. Right?

But the question is...do I want to be common?

Do I want the same heartache that everyone else is feeling due to this way of thinking?

Well, when I was in the dating world it's not that I actually had this thought process, I just wanted a boy to like me so I went out with whoever, and did whatever if it felt right. I just wanted to be accepted. I guess if I would have heard this idea of "trying before buying" then I would have bought into the same things.

So what am I really talking about here? Yep. Sex. This is the new way of thinking. If you don't like the way sex feels with this person then don't date them. Just have sex, try it out, if it's good then they are a good canidate for a boyfriend/girlfriend.

Hmmmm...


What has happened to our minds??

Sex and relationships were not supposed to be catagorized in the same venue as buying cars or clothing...it's so much more relational than that. If you try before you buy (what I really mean is have sex before your married) then you are setting yourself up for heartache after heartache. Broken relationships will only come out of it. I know. I've been there.
How about trying a different approach?

A friend of mine always says "let's be uncommon." I love this idea. Being uncommon.

About two years ago I went around to a local college campus to chat about this very thing...I'd like you to check it out...just go to my past post under the title "Sex before marriage, what do you think?"

Now what's your opinion?