He broke my heart...

Girls, I've been there. It sucks to have your heart broken. It really does. You put yourself out there hoping to feel loved and then... squash!
It's over.
It's done.
So, you pick up your broken heart and try to get on with your life.
Yeah, right. Not easy to do.
You hear every sad song on the radio.
You see every adorable couple walking hand in hand down the street.
You just can't get this guy out of your head.
So what's a girl to do?
Well, here is what I found from a website called Healyourbrokenheart.com
And I'd have to agree with the stuff they are suggesting. So for all of you struggling with a heart that has been broken...take a look and I encourage you to impliment some of these things into your new single life...read on my wounded hearted friends...


"Honor how you feel – let the pain come and feel it. Whether you are curled up in bed or out with friends, when the pain sweeps over you – let it. If you feel like talking about it, do so. If you are repeating yourself, find the friend who has done the same to you and vent. It is important to feel this pain and walk right thru it. The other option is to block it out and return to it later; as long as you understand the pain is not going anywhere until it is processed. I promise after you talk, cry, rant, scream, and sit thinking in silence about what you are missing and how you are hurt, you are on the path to recovery. When it returns again just rinse and repeat – this time will pass.

Know that hearts heal – no matter how much you do not believe this. No matter how down you are, how close to feel to the edge, just know this time will pass. Time and friends and family, but mostly time will heal your wounds. If you have lost someone even to death and are grieving their loss, if you cannot imagine a time where you will not feel such intense pain, please remember there are others in the world who have been in your place and who have gotten thru it. The common denominator in the healing is time. Can you speed up the process? Sure. Here are some helpful steps.

Music - listen to it, find the album. I don’t want to detract from this post with a bunch of neurological jargon about how music pulls at our heartstrings. I’d rather you just give it a go when you are feeling down. Music has a power, more than words to feel and heal your pain.

Writing - write it out, write it out. I’m sure you’ve heard the tip about writing out a letter to your ex and not sending it. Even if it doesn’t immediately seem to have a healing effect, it organizes your thoughts and helps make a matter of the heart more a matter of the head. Your logic will help heal – use it! Let’s say your break up just doesn’t make sense to you, then that is what you write. Why not send it? Because this time is about healing yourself and sending the letter would go against that initiative. If you are intent on mailing or emailing what you’ve written out, I recommend waiting at least 5 days after writing it to revisit what you’ve written. 5 days won’t change much between you and your ex, however, it may provide a world of difference to your perspective.

Reading – start. If you don’t feel like investing in a book, use the internet as a resource. Remember misery loving company? Not exactly how I would put it, but it is a comfort to know there are others going thru the same process.

Everyday add one thing to your day that makes you happy. If you can’t imagine that word in your life right now, search back thru memories. Childhood, a high school dance, a trip you took, an incredible meal you had and savor that memory for 5-10 minutes a day. If you have a hobby such as collecting antiques or blogging or anything – indulge in it. If you don’t feel like, force yourself to do it for 5-10 minutes minimum per day.

Exercise – try for at least 20 minutes a day. As for myself, I don’t have the urge to exercise even when I’m in a happy place. When I’m going thru a break up, even less so. So how do you do it? Know that your mind is very strong. It has capabilities and an arsenal of tools to defend your heart that you may not even be aware of. Use them. Tell yourself you are going to workout and just do it. I promise you’ll feel a little better.

Fake it until you make it. Smile – even if it’s not genuine, it has been scientifically proven to release endorphins and relieve some stress. Go out with friends against any little voice in your head telling you that you won’t enjoy yourself. Comfort yourself with things that are comforting to you (mac n cheese, sex and the city, a little shopping)…

You’re on your way, I promise.